Memories

David, 9 November 2017

If you have been following David’s battle with pancreatic cancer on CaringBridge, you have heard the devastating news that he is now on home hospice and not expected to make it to Christmas. Considering the fact that we are currently at roughly fourteen and a half months and the original prediction was nine to eleven months of survival, as heartbroken as we are, we are still very grateful to have had this additional time. That said, I can’t pretend we will ever be really ready to let him go.

So many thoughts come flooding in as he rests. Sometimes I need a distraction to keep from pestering him with questions on what I can do for him: if he needs pain meds, if he’ll drink a bit more Ensure or Powerade, etc. Right now seemed as good a time as any to write a post I’ve been meaning to write for months.

In July we flew to Michigan to celebrate the life of David’s cousin Pete (another dear one cancer has taken from us). After a touching evening with family, the next day David and I took a small road trip south for a bit of nostalgia. Brittany was the only one of our daughters able to join us, but two of David’s brothers, Eb and Doug, had one night to spare, so we drove two cars down to Dayton, Ohio. We were actually headed more specifically to Oakwood, the suburb where David and his sister and brothers grew up. First stop, Marion’s Piazza for lunch . . .

From left, brothers Doug and Eb with David at Marion’s Piazza, Dayton, Ohio

. . . then a stroll around the old neighborhood.

103 Beverly, Oakwood, Ohio, where David and his siblings grew up

Since we were standing out front of their old house, Doug decided to go ring the doorbell to let anyone inside know why we were lurking and taking photos. The woman who came to the door was so kind, she actually invited us in, so we had a chance to see the setting of so many of the stories we’ve heard over the years.

Driveway and back of 103 Beverly, Oakwood, Ohio

After a few more stops, we sent Brittany with Doug and Eb, since the three of them had flights the next day home from Detroit. David and I had an extra day, so we headed to Indianapolis, where we met in 1978.

Definitely on our agenda was the Indianapolis Museum of Art where we had our first date. The grounds were still as beautiful as we remembered . . .

Grounds of Indianapolis Museum of Art

. . . but the Garden on the Green restaurant was no more. The building is now only available for special events. Still fun to see the building and remember that we were sitting right inside these corner windows . . .

The former Garden on the Green restaurant, site of our first date

. . . when we both realized we would marry each other. This was four days after we met. I know, sounds crazy, but it did work out rather well! Our 39th wedding anniversary is this Saturday, the 18th.

Later that day we started heading north to get back for our flight home from Detroit the next afternoon. It was a quick trip, but what a sweet one. This little nostalgia tour was all David’s idea, and I love that we had a chance to make a few more memories and revisit the scenes of old ones.

In case you have not yet had the chance to see it,  below is a YouTube link to a tiny video of David a few days ago on the 12th. He had a pretty good day, which was nice since it was Brittany’s birthday. He gets a bit confused occasionally and sometimes uses one word when he means another (you’ll hear him say “gracious” when he meant “grateful”) but overall thought you might like to see this word of thanks from David.

https://youtu.be/zkJFfVy2nKs

Thanks for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers during this heartbreaking time. You are appreciated!

 

 

8 thoughts on “Memories”

  1. Prayers continue….
    Thank you for this peek into some special moments together! And I would say 39 years together did work out well, very well – Your love for each other, your girls, your God, your friends. Very well indeed! Love you both!

  2. c’est toujours beaucoup d’émotion de lire ces nouvelles et nous sommes vraiment heureux que vous ayez pu faire ce pèlerinage, début de 39 ans d’Amour.Nous vous soutenons dans nos pensées.

  3. You are soooo brave Sunny, and my heart ached when I watched the video but thank you for sharing this part of your lives!

  4. Dear Sunny and David,

    Thinking of you both during this challenging phase of life.  We will toast you both at our French Meetup this Sunday.

    Bisous,

    Lili

  5. Thinking of you on this milestone day with gratefulness for 39 love-filled years together. Love to you both. Sarah

  6. This sounded like such a nice nostalgia tour and it’s great Dave was afforded a little more time in life to do it with you. I’ve had so many friends who have passed away from cancer during the last two years and imagine it is even harder when it is your life partner.

    Stay strong and thanks for sharing the wonderful memories.

  7. I’m so very sorry to read this. I’d found your blog a couple of years ago while looking for language classes in France, but I’ve fallen way far behind this year in keeping up with everyone online.
    My very best wishes to you and to David. So glad you had such a good trip to the old hometown.

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